Sunday, June 1, 2008

It is what it is...Or is it?


My Grand-daughter at the park.



My friend Karyn has heard me say a hundred or so times "It is what it is." So many times in fact she bought me a sign that hangs in my office and it says just that. The little phrase helps me accept the reality of situations otherwise I will entertain ideas of make- believe. I have always had trouble accepting no for an answer, really ask my mother. I don't like dead ends, or bad movie endings, or unresolved arguments. I truly like happy endings, I love a good fight if it is productive, meaning a better understanding of each other. I have always looked at conflict as an opportunity to hear and to be heard. But, I have had to accept some others would rather not argue at any cost, even if it is the relationship. I have also had to accept that for them the cost is too great and they would rather walk away from discord. Thankfully, I haven't had many of those people in my life but a few none-the-less and the phrase "It is what it is" is a helpful mantra to recite in my frustration. It has also helped in our current work situation but I have added an extra phrase to it that makes it more meaningful..."It is what it is, until God says it isn't." It reminds me that God is in control and while I may resign myself to my current situation, I still know that God is working in all things.

6 comments:

rmbgrafton said...

So I guess my "let's make a compromise" mantra comes from you :) Nor do I ever take no for an answer...I like that about me! Though, I think Mitch could live without that particular characteristic!!

rmbgrafton said...

BTW...I didn't even recognize Kate in that picture. I hope it's because it is an odd angle and not bc she's growing up too fast!!!

Ronda's Rants said...

That is indeed the grand-daughter's latest picture and I think she is growing up too fast!

LoLo said...

I must agree that I too have a very difficult time accepting no for an answer. Something that I think is good and bad and something that I am trying very difficult to alter so that it is just a good characterstic and not a bad one:)

Karyn said...

Reminds me of the story of Your Hut Is On Fire. Guy is stranded on an island and builds a little hut, one day it catches on fire. He is despondent and askes,"Why God?"
The next day is resuced by a ship who saw his smoke signal.
Never give up on God's love!

Ronda's Rants said...

I love that story! And I think our hut is on fire! Just kidding.