Friday, January 9, 2009

See Kori Ask Ronda

Kori at See Kori Rant asked me some really great questions and I want to answer them but I also wanted to take just a moment to say something about Kori and her blog.

She has an honest blog! I admire her honesty and realness. She is a great Mom but also admits her struggles...she is in a word fearless and I admire that very much!

These are great questions!

In your New Year's post about resolutions, you said something about not gossiping any longer because it doesn't feel like much fun. Was there one thing in particular that happened which caused you to notice this?
No, not really one thing but I have found myself in situations where gossip would start and I didn't think I could comfortably stop it without seeming judgmental or I felt like I would hurt the other person's feelings. But...about 14 years ago, My Hubby and I separated due to marital problems for six months; and good, well meaning people gossiped about it and my daughter heard some things that were said and she was very hurt by it all. I guess that's really when I decided I never wanted to be a part of that anymore! I just excuse myself and walk away or I say I am sorry... but I just feel like we shouldn't keep talking about this!

2. In the photo on your blog page, the header, you look so relaxed and happy; who took that photo, and what does he/she mean to you?
My Hubby took the picture, while we were on vacation together and he means everything to me. We have known each other for almost 35 years and married for 31...we were high school sweethearts! We don't have a perfect marriage but he is my lover, my best friend, and the most important person in my life. We work very hard in our marriage and besides my children it is the one other thing I am most proud of.

3. If money or time were not an issue, where would you go on a dream vacation, who would you take, and why?
I would go on a cruise around the world and take My Hubby and my children and their families.
Being with them and seeing the world together would be heaven on earth for me!

4. You are obviously a strong believer; have you always had such a strong faith in God? If not, what happened to solidify that for you?
The honest answer is...I thought my faith was strong until my marriage faltered and then it was tested "big time!" I always felt like I was a "good girl" who tried to do the right things and when it started to fall apart I felt like...God wasn't holding up his end of the bargain. It was a hard time for me...and even weakness is my relationship with My Hubby...I can bear almost anything...but when things aren't going well in that relationship ...I am "shaken and stirred!"
But...I have learned that I will be okay because of God's love no matter what my circumstance! But... I was not a quick has been a hard lesson for me.

5. You have the chance to be an animal for a day; what kind would you be, and why?
One of my dogs...I think. I have a Golden Retriever, named Riley and a Chocolate Lab., named Miley and I think they are just the loyal and affectionate. I would like to know if they are really happy and I would love to know what they think!

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jill jill bo bill said...

You Ranters are the BOMBDIGGITY!

Lauren said...

Good post. Honest! BTW I finished The Lucky One. OMG I LOVED that book! Thank you :)

Rhonda said...

That was an awesome post, Ronda. I love how real and honest you were. These R-h-ondas need to get together. I think we would have such a fantabulous time!

Jeanne said...

Nice post -- a couple of good reminders, and even better examples!

Karyn said...

Even though I knew most of your answers, I really enjoyed reading this post. Have a wonderful weekend dear friend! xo

Ronda's Rants said...

I know you were there! Always there...always supportive. Everyone should have a Karyn in her life! :)

Karyn said...

I am just glad you still take my calls!

Scary Mommy said...

Oh, how fun!! And I've always loved your profile pic! :)

Jennifer said...

Those were great questions--and I would expect nothing less from Kori--she's so smart!

And great answers too! I otally agree w/ you on the gossiping thing--but I am very guily of being gossipy and I'm not sure I could stop--good for you!!

careysue said...

Thank you for being so real, it really makes you feel better to see the real side of people! We all have our trails.

You're awesome.

Candid Carrie said...

Alright, it's me. I've got a slightly different twist on gossip. Sorry. But then maybe it isn't gossip the way I do it.

I've got one great friend, best friend ever and we are each others confidant so that we DON'T gossip. If we hear something that even if you aren't supposed to tell but it is too much to keep inside, we weigh it out with each other and it goes no further.

Did that make sense? Like sometimes you hear something about so and so's kid being in trouble. We talk it over, wonder if the kid's parents know ... discuss the validity of the source and sort of simmer over it and decide if the parents need to know or at what point the parent's need to know.

I still don't know if I am making sense writing this. We don't blab to everyone about what we heard so I guess it isn't gossiping. More like women who have each other's backs.

Or is it still gossip to be avoided? I don't want to obsess alone about some of the tidbits that I have been made aware of and if someone had "gossip" about me or my kids I would want to know about it.

Which is totally different than those rumor mongers.

Please advise. And when can Kori interview me?

Ronda's Rants said...

I may be rationalizing but that doesn't sound like gossiping! However, I don't think the group of women who were doing this realized their children heard "their concern" for my family and then their children took that concern to the streets allowing my daughter to hear it all.
My test Is this something I would say if the person were standing here...or Do I feel like I need to take a shower after I've left the "conversation?"
If I answer "No" to the first and "Yes" to the second...Then it's check please!

Anonymous said...

What a cool post....great questions and great answers!!! If I were married I would work really hard at it too......being single isn't always great.....

Kori said...

Thank you so much for playing along! I loved your answers, you honesty, and I loved getting to know you on a little deeper level. I have to agree with you and Candid Carrie in terms of gossiping; I tell one person EVERYTHING, and vice versa, and it doesn't go anywhere-and yes, we talk about other people. But to just walk around spreading what I know or have heard or suspect makes me feel slightly ill. It hurts too many people, and usually the wrong ones!