Tuesday, April 21, 2009

10 Things I Hate About You

****This was a post I was never going to "hit publish post" for...but I mentioned it on a bloggy friend's blog and she suggested I should publish it and since...I am in an argument with my Hubby I decided to "hit publish post!"
I was frustrated with my Hubby to the point of planning his demise and how to dispose of his remains when I reminded myself of two things...I am not a good liar and my brother is a homicide detective for the county I live in...

Brother: "Ronda, where is your husband?"
Ronda: "He is in the backyard...under the azaleas!"

Seriously...The plot of the next Lifetime movie!

My second thought was to lacerate (nice ten dollar word) him on my blog but...my kids read my blog and frankly My Hubby would possibly strike back with his own blog....Bob's Bitchin' ( sorry Mom!)
anyway...I decided to turn my frustrations inward and this is the post! The things I hate are about myself... I don't really "hate" these things...I am merely not fond of them but I liked the title of the post...so I left it!
My point is there are two sides to every argument...and while I am tempted to say My side and the wrong side...it wouldn't be true!****

1. I hate that you follow rules to the letter...that if you don't know them you look them up! You are the rule keeper, the rule reminder and you let everyone know if they broke the rules!
2. I hate that everything is a "big deal" to you...it would seem there are no small problems...only large ones!
3. I hate that you are so insecure... At what age are you secure about who you are as a person?
4. I hate that you keep and maintain a record of wrongdoings...you know it's wrong and yet you do it!!
5. I hate that you don't trust others. You may feel you have good reason but it effects all your relationships adversely!
6. I hate that you swear...it doesn't make you clever or bold...it shows how weak you feel.
7. I hate that you are afraid of change...nothing remains the same and change is normal.
8. I hate that you are so sensitive...let things roll off your back more often!
9. I hate that you always feel you need to defend the "underdog"...it makes others feel like you think yourself superior to them.
10. I hate that you would actually argue with a brick wall!


Coachdad said...

Well...you know I swear. So, I must feel weak, too. Argue with a brick hall? Husband?

Jeanne said...

Since the title was SO unlike you, I had to come right over. Here are 10 things I love about you:
1) You read good stuff.
2) You're willing to share about what you've read.
3) You give away books after you read them (so cool!).
4) You profess yourself to be a Christian -- and then you actually act like one.
5) You have a beautiful blog.
6) Even when you're mad, you're fair.
7) Maybe even more than fair.
8) You take on so many causes, and you crusade for them with such gusto, but without making everyone want to go into hiding.
9) You love your family so much.
10) You love your dog so much.
11) You're so open and honest about your struggles.
12) Wait, I was supposed to stop at 10.

Crap, I broke the rules!


Ronda's Rants said...

Thank you and see...I noticed that you broke the rule! :)

Lauren said...

Believe it or not kiddo, the fact that you know this is half the battle. Now when one of these things comes up notice it and see how you can let go a little faster. Believe you me, I have many of these issues with myself. What i notice is how I process them differently now than I did even a year ago. Be gentle with yourself. Go check out my cool award I won. LOL

Karyn said...

TO my VERY dear Ronda,

All the things you mentioned are what makes you such an exceptional person. I would not change one darn thing about you! xoxo

Hot Tub Lizzy said...

As they say, the first step to solving the problem is admiting it.

Rhonda said...

Oh, Ronda, I adore you. And I adore you're friend Jeanne. What an awesome comment!!!

Ginger said...

I love this post!!!! I cracked up at the first part of it...when you said he was under the azaleas.
When I get mad at my hubby, I can't think straight enough to post something so logical. I would like to put him under the azaleas if I had any. (just kidding).

Brenda said...

Haha! There are so many times my husband should be buried under some bush in my back yard!

Betty said...

We are so much alike, it scares me. It´s like reading about me.
But I think your friend Jeanne said it best!
There is much much more good, than bad!
Thanks for posting this!!

Teri said...

Hmm. #1 is hitting home with me...a lot.

And I am also having an ongoing argument of sorts with my hubby. I wish I would write about it, but, as you say, too many eyes reading. Ah, well.

Roshni Mitra Chintalapati said...

*sigh*.. how about this...we both murder our husbands and then cover for each other?

Debbie said...

I bet this was cathartic. Did you feel better?

Ronda's Rants said...

Better? Less mad...Less frustated...More in control!
Yes...better! :)