Sunday, June 13, 2010

We Are Like Two Peas in a Pod...Only One is a Bean!

Recently I told someone my Hubby was my best friend and he is...that has not always been the case. We started out as friends but as marriages, sometimes do... we got busy and became acquaintances! Working, raising children and even our church would become a distraction that kept us from feeling like friends.

Both of us are very tolerate of other people and each of us have friends who think very differently that we do; it took a long time for us to allow that with each other. It took us even longer to realize that married people don't have to have the same mind ... it's okay to disagree and be different.

I have wonderful friends, in fact if you were to judge me just on my friends alone, I think, I would be judged a success. My friends are varied, Christian, Atheists, Hindus and I think I have one who classifies herself as Pagan but I think she's joking and really  she's agnostic. Some of my friends are conservatives and believe it or not they love me in spite of my liberalism. I have one friend who is a conservative Nudist and while I am neither, I love him just the same and I know he would do anything for me or my family. My husband is probably more accepting than even I am, however, for years we struggled to accept each other for just who we are and remember that we fell in love with each others differences. 

It's funny how we all strive to accept our neighbor but we needle our spouses for their shortcomings! God gave me a patient man who forgives easily...and I am grateful.
That's the great thing about getting older...what's essential is more clear to you everyday!

8 comments:

Betty said...

This is a mayor thing I have to work on. I STILL want to change my husband sometimes and can´t seem to accept him as he is. But you´re right when you say, you learn to see what important and what´s not. So many times it´s not worth it.

Roshni Mitra Chintalapati said...

my husband is my best friend too! That's why I married him! And, if you can't fight without inhibition with your best friend, there's no justice in this world!!

Ronda's Rants said...

So true!

LoLo said...

:) First I am glad to see you blogging more frequently..I miss your blogs! Second I completely agree!! Ryan is my best friend and I couldnt imagine being married to someone who isnt your best friend!

Dawn said...

My husband is my best friend too, but you really gave me some things to think about! Great post!

Kori said...

I liked hearing this; maybe it really is possible.

Beth Ann said...

Hi Ronda!! Yes, It has taken my 10 years to really know I cant change my husband...only plant seeds...LOL
This past year with him out of work has been a huge struggle for both of us, as well as a relationship shifter! We have made it 8 months without a job, and I think we are closer now than ever before. He IS my best friend too. :)

Ronda's Rants said...

I didn't know about your husband's job loss, I know from experience how difficult that is. My husband is currently looking as well and while it's been very difficult, it has drawn us closer as well :)