Sunday, April 25, 2010

Rolling with the Punches...

The saga continues...

So...we (he) made an appointment to have that cracked windshield fixed on our car and literally (not metaphorically) we were rear ended by another vehicle the morning of the appointment.

What I noticed about the incident/accident is that while my husband and I both showed kindness and compassion to the young man who failed to use his brakes at the red light, instead allowing our back bumper to do the job for him; we weren't all that kind or compassionate to each other. We weren't mean but we were nicer to the man who hit us than to one another. Both of us have had car accidents that were our fault when we were younger and I think this allowed us to remember how it felt and gave us compassion for this young man. I am glad as I think he needed it.

Where we failed, was being there for each other. I am not complaining as I am as guilty as the Hubby...we weren't there for each other. To give credit to one another , we didn't realize we needed it. But...why do we married people sometimes show more compassion to a total stranger than to one another?

We kept going...I mean we have this giant TO-DO List..and DO we must!

But, later I felt achy... not from the accident but I think just from being so tense about the experience of the accident.

So, I took a moment to really thank God that no one was hurt, that my husband is a gracious man who can be kind to a young man who makes a mistake and that THIS...thankfully is no big deal! A peace came over me...

My windshield is fixed like brand new...and Monday morning my car goes in for repairs to fix my smashed rear end!

We will keep rolling on and doing our TO-DO List...

6 comments:

Kori said...

So glad that no one was hurt, first. And your awareness amazes me; thank you for that today.

Betty W said...

I´m glad you´re ok!
Very good point made here in this post. I´ve noticed this between us as a couple as well. In many other situations, it´s "funny" why we can be more civil to strangers than to one another. Something to think about and change.

Rhonda said...

How true, Ronda. How true. Have you seen the movie Date Night yet? There is a part in the movie that your post reminded me of. Hubby and wife were talking about how she doesn't sparkle for him like she did for the guy they just saw. I had to admit, I so don't sparkle or shine for Leon. I should probably work on that. (Actually, Leon figures I wrote the parts of the movie that detailed the trouble between the two of them. It hit THAT close to home. Personally, I found the similarity to be just hilarious and laughed my fool head off through the whole darned film! lol)

Ronda's Rants said...

Okay...that will be our date night movie for Friday! Thanks, I have missed you my friend!

Jeanne Estridge said...

I think you put your finger on it -- you had so much to get done that you didn't feel like you could afford time to really focus on on each other's needs.

And while being able to get away with this is a trait of good marriages, it is not, I think the best one.

Thanks for the reminder. Old Dog will have a better weekend for it!

Unknown said...

I agree so glad no one was hurt...hope you had a wonderful weekend...